Last time, my dady has come to hospital as his trouble in breathing. In fact, he has ill for 3 years, recent time is his bad time.

My father has stayed in hospital in a month, of course, I and my family also stayed here for taking care him. in times staying here, in free time, i usually did some handmade things as cross stitch, doll or anything else. My things attracted doctors, nurses so much as it beauty. Among doctors, there had some young ones, and as other said they like me. I dont know bcz I had to work, just go hospital in evening time or weekend and I rarely talked with them.

When my dady back home, afraid of his ill can become heavier, i ask for some nurses' contact number and sometime I call them for asking. One day, a nurse came to my home for seeing my daddy's ill, after he was out of my home, i rcvd an sms threatening me abt I'm a bad girl who stealing other's boyfriend. She had a lot terrible words to me, i really didn't know who is she? She also informed me that there would hv some man who would "bite" me. Hmm.......... so complicated.........

I am wordering abt that girl. May be as I guess, she is that nurse's girlfriend. Frankly to say, I dont like him, just a relation btw patient's family and nurse. That situation makes us get in a trouble situation. Bcz I and a doctor in same group with that nurse has special feeling. But after this situation, he seems to get away from me, no close contacting as before, .....

Wht should I do now?

If you really think there is a chance that a man might come to your house and hurt you, perhaps you should report this matter to the police. 

This love story, like many stories of the past is of love-triangle, and sometimes polygram.


I went into your Alibaba accounts, and notice that you posted yourself as male, but your name Tracy is for a girl, and after reading your story, which is seemingly complicated (as all human relationships are) you write as from a feminine side of the first person.


In order to give you a more definite answer we must understand your story as what we perceived. So, I am going to restate my understanding and hope you would clarify and confirm the facts.


First the scenario, the backdrop is the scene of a hospital in Vietnam.

1. You dad was hospitalized for long term illness.
2. You stayed in the hospital to visit him often and made some handicrafts, which attracted some young male staffs of the hospital, nurses.
3. One day, a male nurse came to your home to visit your dad, but he was not in, and he met you, both of you had something going on from then.
4. You asked for the mobile phone numbers of some nurses to make consultation regarding your dad.
5. You received a threatening SMS from someone to stay away from her boyfriend, accusing you of stealing him away from her.
6. Actually you have no liking for him, only a Professional relationship of medical help to your family member.
7. You have some special feelings for a doctor in the same group as the nurse.
8. You dont know what to do with this situation.

I am a father of teenage and middle age children, and now a grandfather of my daughters two children, and I guess I am in the right position to give you my advice.


We have a similar situation when my elder daughter was hospitalised for 2 months, on a case which took the medical staff in the hospital a long time to diagnose and identify. Because this illness is rare in highly developed place like Singapore, it only happends in third world countries.


My daughter was at age 23 then, she is beautiful , attractive and intelligent, a college graduate. A young doctor who attended to her case had a crush on her, I don't notice it until my wife told me about this. She has a boyfriend, and this guy is from her same college, they were studying in.


It is natural for most people to have high esteem for the people in the Medical field, either a doctor or a specialist in the medical profession, because these people earn high salary and have high regards by the public. So, most people will fall for a Doctor, Lawyer, or King. However these are the cases where the professional people cannot get themselves personally involved. The relationship is strictly from doctor to patient, and he cannot go beyond this point. If he wants to develop the relationship, he has to do it outside of the circle.


The story ends daughter did not give him any signal that she is available, and her boyfriend went to visit her and my younger girl stayed with her beside her bed.

She got engaged to the boy and now married and lived in other country. They have two beautiful children, a boy 3 years old and a baby girl, with beautiful big eyes and long eyelashes.


My advice to you - stay out of the triangle, not as your dad is the patient, and even greater reason for you not to be involved. Women are vicious, they can do almost anything because of jealousy, and if the doctor has true feelings for you, he will wait until the professional ties between you and him is over, then he has to approach you on a neutral basis, not as a doctor, but as a man who wants to marry you.


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