I have one girl work under me for almost one year, but honestly since she joined the company I had never be comfortable with her, there are many reasons, I have to explain a bit…

When she just joined the company, I don’t know why she was so afraid of me as mouse see the cat, it was so illed behave, because whoever join I am very easy to them… but whenever she saw me, her behave is very timid & sneaky, even I am near to her place, she will suddenly stand up, sometimes she was trembling…sometimes she will immediately close something in computer. Later I noticed she is doing some other thing in work time, so I told her not to do…and I talked her trying to feel peaceful & safe here, no one will do bad thing to her…just be honest & work in a proper way…

With the time going, I teach her many things, and I found she became much more confidient & mental healthy. But she went to another extreme…She became very rough…

if you tell her something, in the half she will suddenly stop me and say, I understand….but in real she doesn’t know completely. Sometimes, when she communicate with supplier, I found she give a perfect report to me, but behind there are many mistakes hidden, and she will never tell me.

Later I found she is not only rough but start to get envy of me, and she take lots of interest in “me”, I don’t know why I am so attractive to her, she start to copy each of everything from me, even in working, her eyes is all the time peeking at me, if I cough, she will also cough, I have some nasal problem, she will also try to make the same voice, my handwriting, the font I will choose in typing, the color I will choose…I didn’t notice in the beginning, but slowly I found her job is copying of me….never see any creation in her personality…

I felt seriously embarranced sometimes, one day I was discussing work with her, she was staring at me and not listen one word, and just look at my face & my eyes, for half day she was not wake up……I looked at her empty eyes & greedy face, I was seriously disappointed to her..

I am not that much narrow mind person, I always serious in work, so I can’t kick her  for this types of thing, although in the position she is low, but spiritually we are equal, she is willing to be successful & attractive girl, honestly I am not good example at all…don’t know why she can’t be a bit serious in work…

 

 

 

 

 

Hi Shelley, nice to see you here again, though of course not with these problems.

Regarding this girl, she evidently needs a psychologist. As you are not into this profession, there is nothing you can do for her. Unfortunately it's part of life that we can't do all the nice things we would like to do.

Conclusion? You'll have to let her go. And as she is clearly mentally disturbed, make sure you are not alone when you tell her that. In fact, she would have to leave your office in that very moment.

Give her a good severance payment - the equivalent to a good-bye kiss - and forget about her. It isn't good to continue thinking about problems that are beyond your abilities to arrange.

Please be aware that my advice would be totally different if she only had a temporary problem, like because of the death of a parent, but as this is clearly permanent, also your solution has to be permanent.

 she is obviously making enchanting spells on you. ultimately you will marry her and she will be the boss of your whole being. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Quoting from [xtiml]:

 she is obviously making enchanting spells on you. ultimately you will marry her and she will be the boss of your whole being. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm agree with you.I think both of the two have pay much attention on each other.Just take it as a good start .May be one day ,you will find the reason.Any way,please take is easy ,and relax.

Maybe just take it as a form of flattery that she is copying you.Dont take it too seriously take it lightly.She maybe has some psychological/emotional problems and is feeling intimidated by you as her boss(hence the quietness and mouselikeness)and then becomes aware and embarressed of the way she is acting and then tries to overcompensate in behaviour(hence the aggressiveness and cutting you off when talking).

As long as shes doing her job correctly thats all that really matters.Maybe just try to be nice to her when shes around,understand the position she might be in and other then that dont give it too much thought

Quoting from [germex]:

Hi Shelley, nice to see you here again, though of course not with these problems.

Regarding this girl, she evidently needs a psychologist. As you are not into this profession, there is nothing you can do for her. Unfortunately it's part of life that we can't do all the nice things we would like to do.

Conclusion? You'll have to let her go. And as she is clearly mentally disturbed, make sure you are not alone when you tell her that. In fact, she would have to leave your office in that very moment.

Give her a good severance payment - the equivalent to a good-bye kiss - and forget about her. It isn't good to continue thinking about problems that are beyond your abilities to arrange.

Please be aware that my advice would be totally different if she only had a temporary problem, like because of the death of a parent, but as this is clearly permanent, also your solution has to be permanent.

Quoting from [heshelleyatgmaildotcom]:

 

 

Base on your story, the problem is on her. I think she must go to psychiatry..

My opinon =

If you donot feel she intimidated/disturb you, Be relax , Dont take it too seriously as long as her job correctly.

If you feel she disturb you or her job not good, you can say goodbye to her

 

marry her,this girl won't have interest in you any more.

Quoting from [davadi]:

Quoting from [heshelleyatgmaildotcom]:

 

 

Base on your story, the problem is on her. I think she must go to psychiatry..

My opinon =

If you donot feel she intimidated/disturb you, Be relax , Dont take it too seriously as long as her job correctly.

If you feel she disturb you or her job not good, you can say goodbye to her

 

Quoting from [heshelleyatgmaildotcom]:


Hi Shelly


Well this is a strange problem but then why on earth are you trying to solve emotional problems  and behavioural patterns,


The simplest solution to the problem is to issue a warning and terminate if you have not done so because your business will suffer if you harbour and nurse problems that do not have to exist in the work=place,


If you do not have a heart to do that then you learn to live with the problem and direct her to a shrink and maybe even pay for the shrink.


KISS = keep it simple Silly should be the mantra