i just wanna to ask ...is it ok,live together without get marry? i just want to know your views regarding this topic,i personally feel that its ok.so pls tell me your view, i m waiting your response, i think after 50 years most pepole will live together without getting marry, how much you think, is it possible or not?

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Quoting from [lelele]:

i just wanna to ask ...is it ok,live together without get marry? i just want to know your views regarding this topic,i personally feel that its ok.so pls tell me your view, i m waiting your response, i think after 50 years most pepole will live together without getting marry, how much you think, is it possible or not?

 

If  I a girl, I must think further , because your boyfriend when he is into the forty or even later part in life or boring with you ( sorry )  can easily find a new young girl for him. but you may have difficulties finding a mate.

cheers-Davadi

Think about in below :



example you open registration ; and then do you know what happened???

 thousand of boy/man will register. why???

because you offer living together without commitment

 

but if you a man and then what happened???

 only 1% of thousand girl / woman will register.

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Quoting from [lelele]:

i just wanna to ask ...is it ok,live together without get marry? i just want to know your views regarding this topic,i personally feel that its ok.so pls tell me your view, i m waiting your response, i think after 50 years most pepole will live together without getting marry, how much you think, is it possible or not?

Morally it is evil, and socially it is like having sex without the responsibility.



God made man and woman to mate, like the animals and insects, the birds and the bees, but people are the ones that perverse the entire plan of nature. Why live together? Don't tell me that both of you are good friends only, not having sex?



At the end of the day, who can you say your house-mate is? Your husband? Maybe you do not want to have children, that is fine, but why living together? The Chinese says: "When you put two cups in a pail of water, floating, they tend to knock each other." So, living together, like what the Western countries are doing, in Great Britain for example there are more and more single mothers. But their social fabric is different from the Asian culture, their Governments give them money, and more money if they are single parent. If they are married, there is a man to take care of them, the Welfare pay will be less. But there is no such welfarism in China or even here, so why be the loser?



In all cases, the woman is always the loser. If by accident, she gets pregnant, she has to bear the child for 9 months, become a social stigma, talk-of-the-town, and a disgrace to her parents and relatives. She does not get any help from anyone outside, and cannot work, due to her pregnancy. What can she do if the man just takes off after finding out she is bearing his child? The guy had his fun, and the girl also had her's but who got the bug?



Marriage is not a matter of convenience, or any how relationship, it is a life time committment to each other. I will not allow my daughter to live with another man, no matter what he is, a gentleman or a doctor, or lawyer. If they want, they must get married.



Street

I absolutly agreed with the views written above. the best example she gave about floating bowls and they will touch together it is right. Our asian society never allow woman and man live together without marraige.It is against of nature

Quoting from [lelele]:

i just wanna to ask ...is it ok,live together without get marry? i just want to know your views regarding this topic,i personally feel that its ok.so pls tell me your view, i m waiting your response, i think after 50 years most pepole will live together without getting marry, how much you think, is it possible or not?

It depends on country culture background and your own mind.

As a Chinese girl, I oppse to live together without geting marry.

Imagine a girl lives with her boyfriend without get marry. The girl cooks the meals, does the housework except doing her own job, she serves  the boy like a wife BUT the boy WILL DO NOTHING, he just enjoys the service offered by the girl. Its UNFAIR.

I am a traditional Chinese girl. For me if I live with myboyfriend with get marry, I will feel I am not his girlfriend but a SERVER/ATTENDANT! Why live together then?

If my boyfriend ask me to live together and his reason is I cant understand you well without living together, I will tell him "go to the hell".

Fully understanding a person will not depend on if you both live together or not but the time.

So if I really love a boy, I will befreind with him, for a long time we will be just normal friends, if possible I hope to be his good friend, then I will fully understand him one day.

Girls should consider this issue carefully.

Dear God, pls brings the bad men back to you and leave the good men only!

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Quoting from [lelele]:

i just wanna to ask ...is it ok,live together without get marry? i just want to know your views regarding this topic,i personally feel that its ok.so pls tell me your view, i m waiting your response, i think after 50 years most pepole will live together without getting marry, how much you think, is it possible or not?

It depends on country culture background and your own mind.

As a Chinese girl, I oppse to live together without geting marry.

Imagine a girl lives with her boyfriend without get marry. The girl cooks the meals, does the housework except doing her own job, she serves  the boy like a wife BUT the boy WILL DO NOTHING, he just enjoys the service offered by the girl. Its UNFAIR.

I am a traditional Chinese girl. For me if I live with myboyfriend with get marry, I will feel I am not his girlfriend but a SERVER/ATTENDANT! Why live together then?

If my boyfriend ask me to live together and his reason is I cant understand you well without living together, I will tell him "go to the hell".

Fully understanding a person will not depend on if you both live together or not but the time.

So if I really love a boy, I will befreind with him, for a long time we will be just normal friends, if possible I hope to be his good friend, then I will fully understand him one day.

Girls should consider this issue carefully.

Dear God, pls brings the bad men back to you and leave the good men only!

Quoting from [lelele]:

i just wanna to ask ...is it ok,live together without get marry? i just want to know your views regarding this topic,i personally feel that its ok.so pls tell me your view, i m waiting your response, i think after 50 years most pepole will live together without getting marry, how much you think, is it possible or not?

 

Hi,

I do not think it is wise to live with a man or a woman before marriage. It especially hurt the lady no matter thay are going to married or not.

it is ok living with someone without get marry,i think this question decided by actual situation .i live with my boyfriend at weekend .the normally we live apart.

i know my boyfriend more than one year .he want to marry with me ,but i aways hesitating,i think the marriage is the most important thing for girl .so i am afraid to make a decision :marry with him or not ,i am afraid he is not suit for me ,i am fraid we character is diffent .although i know he is good man .but if the character and interest is not same ,the life between each other is so terrible . sometimes i do not satisfy with him ,he like play all night sometimes for the drink ,mah-jongg and a song and dance.i do not like that .i have no safe thinking marry with him .but let me leave him,i am unwilling ...................

what i can do ,leave or not ,marry or not .now his parents come and see me ,urge us marry ,this question alway bother me .i ask many friend giving me advice .

1.leave him one year or a half year  and do not contact with each other during this time ,after that time ,see each other ,if have feel still,can think the marry

2.give each one year ,if after the year ,i want to marry ,and then marry ,if i also do not have enough safe feeling ,broke up .do not need to waste each other time ,after all he is 30,i am 24 already .

i choice the secend way

Quoting from [Street Smart]:

Quoting from [lelele]:

i just wanna to ask ...is it ok,live together without get marry? i just want to know your views regarding this topic,i personally feel that its ok.so pls tell me your view, i m waiting your response, i think after 50 years most pepole will live together without getting marry, how much you think, is it possible or not?

Morally it is evil, and socially it is like having sex without the responsibility.



God made man and woman to mate, like the animals and insects, the birds and the bees, but people are the ones that perverse the entire plan of nature. Why live together? Don't tell me that both of you are good friends only, not having sex?



At the end of the day, who can you say your house-mate is? Your husband? Maybe you do not want to have children, that is fine, but why living together? The Chinese says: "When you put two cups in a pail of water, floating, they tend to knock each other." So, living together, like what the Western countries are doing, in Great Britain for example there are more and more single mothers. But their social fabric is different from the Asian culture, their Governments give them money, and more money if they are single parent. If they are married, there is a man to take care of them, the Welfare pay will be less. But there is no such welfarism in China or even here, so why be the loser?



In all cases, the woman is always the loser. If by accident, she gets pregnant, she has to bear the child for 9 months, become a social stigma, talk-of-the-town, and a disgrace to her parents and relatives. She does not get any help from anyone outside, and cannot work, due to her pregnancy. What can she do if the man just takes off after finding out she is bearing his child? The guy had his fun, and the girl also had her's but who got the bug?



Marriage is not a matter of convenience, or any how relationship, it is a life time committment to each other. I will not allow my daughter to live with another man, no matter what he is, a gentleman or a doctor, or lawyer. If they want, they must get married.



Street

It is ok. I think though I am a chinese woman.

Such suggestion sounds bit paradoxical.: )  Chinese male chauvinism plays ,I think. When it's not ok for women ,then how will it be ok for men? If no women accept that living way,no men can live that way. Yes,men can have fun randomly ,and they can play hit-and-run ,but those who take this way and then suggest female not  join this are really ridiculous coz it won't be regarded as kindness and care generally. Perhaps some may think women are always the loser ,the pain keeper,the fault maker,but never blame on men's irresponsibility .

To me, premarital cohabitation is not  encouraging unless two of you are committed to each other for a lifetime partnership ,so random partnership gets no way.