She told me a HUGE HUGE HUGE secret involving her like 2 months ago, and I kept it secret for all that time until two days ago, when I told everything to her brother after I drank a bottle of wine.
I feel so guilty and awful, like a horrible person, and I've never regretted anything so much.
She says she doesnt want our friendship to end, that she thinks she can forgive me, but I don't think I can forgive myself--even though of course the end of our friendship is the last thing I want. We are on a 'break' right now, with no contact for four days while we hang out with other people and think about the situation. At the end of this I guess we'll see where we stand.
Right now I feel so bad and sick to death worrying about losing her as a friend even though its completely my fault and I deserve worse. But basically I don't know what to do now or how to apologize properly or earn back her trust and respect if that's even possible.
I guess do any of you have any kind of advice whatsoever? If more info is needed just ask! Any and all appreciated! THANK YOU!
For a very good reason we only have eyes in front of our head, but not in the back. And the reason is that it doesn't make sense to look back. What happened, happened. Now it has become part of history, and the only thing you can do is learning from that experience.
This "learning" of course also includes details like pulling yourself together and finding the right words for a sincere apology. In addition, you also leaned what excessive alcohol does to you, so now you _learned_ that you have to stay away from that.
And the rest of the story is just as logical as this! - You can do it! ![[em19]](http://img.alibaba.com/images/eng/style/icon/emoticons_great.gif){kind=icon}
Quoting from [germex]:For a very good reason we only have eyes in front of our head, but not in the back. And the reason is that it doesn't make sense to look back. What happened, happened. Now it has become part of history, and the only thing you can do is learning from that experience.
This "learning" of course also includes details like pulling yourself together and finding the right words for a sincere apology. In addition, you also leaned what excessive alcohol does to you, so now you _learned_ that you have to stay away from that.
And the rest of the story is just as logical as this! - You can do it!
How true. And in my humbel opinion "not committing the same mistake is in itself the best apology"
Quoting from [germex]:For a very good reason we only have eyes in front of our head, but not in the back. And the reason is that it doesn't make sense to look back. What happened, happened. Now it has become part of history, and the only thing you can do is learning from that experience.
This "learning" of course also includes details like pulling yourself together and finding the right words for a sincere apology. In addition, you also leaned what excessive alcohol does to you, so now you _learned_ that you have to stay away from that.
And the rest of the story is just as logical as this! - You can do it!
The best answer you could get..
![[em14]](http://img.alibaba.com/images/eng/style/icon/emoticons_embrace.gif){kind=icon}
Quoting from [JJB]:
A couple days ago I betrayed my best friend in the worst possible way.
She told me a HUGE HUGE HUGE secret involving her like 2 months ago, and I kept it secret for all that time until two days ago, when I told everything to her brother after I drank a bottle of wine.
I feel so guilty and awful, like a horrible person, and I've never regretted anything so much.
She says she doesnt want our friendship to end, that she thinks she can forgive me, but I don't think I can forgive myself--even though of course the end of our friendship is the last thing I want. We are on a 'break' right now, with no contact for four days while we hang out with other people and think about the situation. At the end of this I guess we'll see where we stand.
Right now I feel so bad and sick to death worrying about losing her as a friend even though its completely my fault and I deserve worse. But basically I don't know what to do now or how to apologize properly or earn back her trust and respect if that's even possible.
I guess do any of you have any kind of advice whatsoever? If more info is needed just ask! Any and all appreciated! THANK YOU!
I can feel your are really sorry for speaking out the secret.so I suggest you can have a talk
with your friend heart to heart,it doesn't matter even if you cried,just do it.and show your sincerity,I think she will understand you.hope everything goes well.
1 Stop drinking and make a promise to your friend that as a matter of repentence you are taking that step.
2. Buy her Flowers
3. Take her out to dinner.
4. Do all of the above especially no 1
5 do no 1