Grandma important or work important?
Post 1 of 13
I met one very complex issue, I hv one assistant who is a very responsible boy, but he is also a very sentimetal guy. These days his grandmom get illed, everyday he could not work peaceful, looks very upset, only if his grandmom have any problem, he will ask for leave and run back home to see grandmom…
I appreciate his love to grandmom, but my work will suffer…Now I made the decision, I asked him go back to hometown, work from home and take care of his grandmom as well..after his grandmom get cured, come back…
Well…I feel he is so weak to face the problem…I start to have some doubts on him, this young boy can take good responsibility in future if he is so sentimental?
I appreciate his love to grandmom, but my work will suffer…Now I made the decision, I asked him go back to hometown, work from home and take care of his grandmom as well..after his grandmom get cured, come back…
Well…I feel he is so weak to face the problem…I start to have some doubts on him, this young boy can take good responsibility in future if he is so sentimental?
20 Feb 2008 06:02
Post 2 of 13
Replying to [heshelleyatgmaildotcom]:
There were always a lot background stories behind what you have seen, this boy cares so much about his grandma, I believe his grandma acts a great role in
his life, his presence will make his grandma feel better.
It’s not the question you really want to ask, actually you want to ask Me Important or Grandma Important, because you care about this boy, J
There were always a lot background stories behind what you have seen, this boy cares so much about his grandma, I believe his grandma acts a great role in
his life, his presence will make his grandma feel better.
It’s not the question you really want to ask, actually you want to ask Me Important or Grandma Important, because you care about this boy, J
20 Feb 2008 23:25
Post 3 of 13
Replying to [Terra]:Dear My lady I am afraid it’s not a love story, if need to ask “me” important or “grandma”important, I can ask him directly but not from Alibaba…
Yeah, I told many stories..that’s my hobby, you can dislike…even hate…I am writing here but not someone’s mailbox…so let it “always”…hope my topics not pollute this forumJ
However, the main thing I was trying to ask how to “balance” the “family” & “work”…
But I believe I made the right decision, work make people less in “loving”…but this boy taught me life is not only the work…
Yeah, I told many stories..that’s my hobby, you can dislike…even hate…I am writing here but not someone’s mailbox…so let it “always”…hope my topics not pollute this forumJ
However, the main thing I was trying to ask how to “balance” the “family” & “work”…
But I believe I made the right decision, work make people less in “loving”…but this boy taught me life is not only the work…
21 Feb 2008 00:34
Post 4 of 13
Replying to [heshelleyatgmaildotcom]:
Shelley, you are a smart girl and always very careful, trying to do things right. So I have the impression you already know what to do and just want "a second opinion".
It's nice to see how this boy cares for his grandma, but this has nothing to do with the fact that he works for you and receives a salary.
It's correct for him to "pay" for his grandma's love with his love, but also to "pay" with his work for the salary you give him.
He has to learn to keep these two things apart, and if he doesn't, you need to tell him. If after that he still doesn't change, you need to force a decision, one way or the other.
Shelley, you are a smart girl and always very careful, trying to do things right. So I have the impression you already know what to do and just want "a second opinion".
It's nice to see how this boy cares for his grandma, but this has nothing to do with the fact that he works for you and receives a salary.
It's correct for him to "pay" for his grandma's love with his love, but also to "pay" with his work for the salary you give him.
He has to learn to keep these two things apart, and if he doesn't, you need to tell him. If after that he still doesn't change, you need to force a decision, one way or the other.
21 Feb 2008 11:35
Post 5 of 13
Replying to [germex]:Hello,my friend,How are you?I would tell the same as you if I came here a little earlier than you.
21 Feb 2008 20:10
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Post 7 of 13
Replying to [heshelleyatgmaildotcom]:
of cause life is not just full concept of work work work
I appreciate this boy
of cause life is not just full concept of work work work
I appreciate this boy
21 Feb 2008 23:55
Post 8 of 13
Replying to [heshelleyatgmaildotcom]:
Everyone has the advantages and week points. Yes? Give him the chance and help him. Human will grow up through time.
But just make sure he is not lying and he is willing to improve.
Bless his grandmother!![[em40]](http://img.alibaba.com/images/eng/style/icon/emoticons_love.gif)
Everyone has the advantages and week points. Yes? Give him the chance and help him. Human will grow up through time.
But just make sure he is not lying and he is willing to improve.
Bless his grandmother!
22 Feb 2008 01:54
Post 9 of 13
Replying to [heshelleyatgmaildotcom]: quite an interesting topic. I do believe that both work and family is very important, we should just learn how to balance it and not cause unnecessary hardship for anyone involved.
22 Feb 2008 07:06
Post 10 of 13
Replying to [heshelleyatgmaildotcom]:
Both Love and Work are important for this poor guy!
He loves his relatives, this is why feel upset when he hears of the illness of his grandma. The work is also important for a young guy in China. In this case, as his colleague, I suggest you'd better ask him to pay a visit to his grandma and continues to work with you after several days off.
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Both Love and Work are important for this poor guy!
He loves his relatives, this is why feel upset when he hears of the illness of his grandma. The work is also important for a young guy in China. In this case, as his colleague, I suggest you'd better ask him to pay a visit to his grandma and continues to work with you after several days off.
22 Feb 2008 07:08
Post 11 of 13
Replying to [Business in China]:
Vacations - both paid and unpaid - are part of the normal work life. So it's a good idea suggesting him to take a few days off. And if he needs more time, he should be honest enough to clearly say that he can't work right now, and resign.
Where I don't agree with him is when he puts his burden on the shoulders of other people, like in this case on Shelley's shoulders. That grandma is his, not hers!
Furthermore, does he stop eating and drinking because of his grandma? He sure won't! But how does he expect to eat and drink if he doesn't want to work?
He just has to pull himself together and learn how to deal with his grandma and his work at the same time. Only wanting to deal with his grandma and his salary (but not his work) just isn't right.
Learning that is part of the process of aquiring maturity and becoming a real man!
Vacations - both paid and unpaid - are part of the normal work life. So it's a good idea suggesting him to take a few days off. And if he needs more time, he should be honest enough to clearly say that he can't work right now, and resign.
Where I don't agree with him is when he puts his burden on the shoulders of other people, like in this case on Shelley's shoulders. That grandma is his, not hers!
Furthermore, does he stop eating and drinking because of his grandma? He sure won't! But how does he expect to eat and drink if he doesn't want to work?
He just has to pull himself together and learn how to deal with his grandma and his work at the same time. Only wanting to deal with his grandma and his salary (but not his work) just isn't right.
Learning that is part of the process of aquiring maturity and becoming a real man!
22 Feb 2008 10:01