Betray friend or betray morality?
Post 1 of 16
Last night, I watched a DVD movie at home. Then it recalled my story about my friend-A.
Before I work as a sourcing agency, I had worked in the exporting companies for several years.
Some day, one of my friends Miss A said she has a foreign client-B would like to open an office in Guangzhou. She asked me if I would like to work with B. I told her I can't go to other cities because I had to take care of my parents in my city.
Two months later, she called me and told me that her client B was in Shantou now for some business. She asked me again if I was willing to meet this client.
I didn't think I would work with him at that time, but went there just for fun.
But the boss thought I can be his qualified business partner in China after he met me.
He tried to persuade me to work with him. He said it doesn't matter to open the office anywhere. As only as you can manage an office in your city, it is ok. No need to move to Guangzhou, plus everything there is high which would increase the cost.
At that time, I hoped my friend A and I can work for this boss together. But the boss told me that he only need one person so far, and required me not to reveal his business secrets to A or to anyone.
After some times, I quit my old job and began to work for A's company.
It seems I worked well, and I was qualified to that job.
My friend tried to persuade me, let’s work together, and we can sell the items directly to the B's buyers directly.
But I refused her the cooperation. Because I think when I work for one's company, I should follow their policies, keeping the company's business secrets is the base as an employee or a partner.
My friend began to hate me. She even thought she introduced her client to me and now you have a good job, you have a good income, but how do you reward me?
Although I tried to explain and reward her with gifts…But this is not what she wanted from me. I lost this friend forever.
In China, friendship is very important. Friendship also means human relationship.
If you want to be successful, you should count on your good social relationship and friendship to get more chances sometimes.
In some people's eyes, I may be some one as the saying says: the danger past and God forgotten.
I would like to say to my friend here, I appreciated your recommendation, but I chose to loyal to my morality instead of friendship.
Before I work as a sourcing agency, I had worked in the exporting companies for several years.
Some day, one of my friends Miss A said she has a foreign client-B would like to open an office in Guangzhou. She asked me if I would like to work with B. I told her I can't go to other cities because I had to take care of my parents in my city.
Two months later, she called me and told me that her client B was in Shantou now for some business. She asked me again if I was willing to meet this client.
I didn't think I would work with him at that time, but went there just for fun.
But the boss thought I can be his qualified business partner in China after he met me.
He tried to persuade me to work with him. He said it doesn't matter to open the office anywhere. As only as you can manage an office in your city, it is ok. No need to move to Guangzhou, plus everything there is high which would increase the cost.
At that time, I hoped my friend A and I can work for this boss together. But the boss told me that he only need one person so far, and required me not to reveal his business secrets to A or to anyone.
After some times, I quit my old job and began to work for A's company.
It seems I worked well, and I was qualified to that job.
My friend tried to persuade me, let’s work together, and we can sell the items directly to the B's buyers directly.
But I refused her the cooperation. Because I think when I work for one's company, I should follow their policies, keeping the company's business secrets is the base as an employee or a partner.
My friend began to hate me. She even thought she introduced her client to me and now you have a good job, you have a good income, but how do you reward me?
Although I tried to explain and reward her with gifts…But this is not what she wanted from me. I lost this friend forever.
In China, friendship is very important. Friendship also means human relationship.
If you want to be successful, you should count on your good social relationship and friendship to get more chances sometimes.
In some people's eyes, I may be some one as the saying says: the danger past and God forgotten.
I would like to say to my friend here, I appreciated your recommendation, but I chose to loyal to my morality instead of friendship.
10 Dec 2007 01:28
Post 3 of 16
Replying to [hellojasmine]:
Yes, sometimes it is very hard for us to choose between job and friendship or relatives!
Good job!![[em19]](http://img.alibaba.com/images/eng/style/icon/emoticons_great.gif)
Yes, sometimes it is very hard for us to choose between job and friendship or relatives!
Good job!
10 Dec 2007 19:28
Post 4 of 16
Replying to [hellojasmine]:
when profit meets friendship,it is a difficult choice to anyone.
when profit meets friendship,it is a difficult choice to anyone.
10 Dec 2007 19:30
Post 5 of 16
Replying to [hellojasmine]:This problem trouble me too. Maybe you are right. Each one has his/her belief.![[em4]](http://img.alibaba.com/images/eng/style/icon/emoticons_sad.gif)
10 Dec 2007 20:19
Post 6 of 16
Replying to [hellojasmine]:![[em1]](http://img.alibaba.com/images/eng/style/icon/emoticons_smile.gif)
, your choice is right, just for the friend who betraied morality isn't the friend indeed, and is trustless.
, your choice is right, just for the friend who betraied morality isn't the friend indeed, and is trustless.
10 Dec 2007 21:40
Post 7 of 16
Replying to [hellojasmine]: You are right ...http://img.alibaba.com/images/eng/style/icon/emoticons_great.gif
Great
Good job.Human is selfish,so when your friend introduce you to her client ,her has her purposehttp://img.alibaba.com/images/eng/style/icon/emoticons_sweat.gif
Sweat
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Good job.Human is selfish,so when your friend introduce you to her client ,her has her purposehttp://img.alibaba.com/images/eng/style/icon/emoticons_sweat.gif
Sweat
10 Dec 2007 21:54
Post 8 of 16
Replying to [hellojasmine]:
That friend can not be considered as a REAL friend.
In my opinion, friends will NEVER make things difficult for her/his friends. At least, friends will think first on your position.
That friend can not be considered as a REAL friend.
In my opinion, friends will NEVER make things difficult for her/his friends. At least, friends will think first on your position.
10 Dec 2007 22:19
Post 9 of 16
Replying to [hellojasmine]:
Hi,My friend,
I just want to say you did a right thing,at last you still expressed your wish to your friend to" forgive" you so it seems that this friend is very important and you do not want to lose her.
But you should consider if she is your true friend may be at first she was planed to betraied you and make use of you.
May be you know her best,you make the decision.
Hi,My friend,
I just want to say you did a right thing,at last you still expressed your wish to your friend to" forgive" you so it seems that this friend is very important and you do not want to lose her.
But you should consider if she is your true friend may be at first she was planed to betraied you and make use of you.
May be you know her best,you make the decision.
11 Dec 2007 00:14
Post 10 of 16
Replying to [hellojasmine]:well done!
anymore, not only in China but also in all over the world, we need friends, and when we are working outside, we choose to count on our friends when face difficulty, so we should cherish our friendship.
another aspect we also need to know is that, we are not a unique creature in the world, true friend should not force you into such situation. anymore, agree with you, if I was you, I would do the same as you, and don't feel guilty to your friend, she is not a true friend for you.
good luck my friend.
anymore, not only in China but also in all over the world, we need friends, and when we are working outside, we choose to count on our friends when face difficulty, so we should cherish our friendship.
another aspect we also need to know is that, we are not a unique creature in the world, true friend should not force you into such situation. anymore, agree with you, if I was you, I would do the same as you, and don't feel guilty to your friend, she is not a true friend for you.
good luck my friend.
11 Dec 2007 00:53
Post 11 of 16
Replying to [hellojasmine]:
Don't feel sad!
It's evident that from the very beginning, she just made use of you. You should know the reason that she recommended you to her client. Actually she wanted to cooperate with you in the near future when she introduced you to B. But it turns out that her dream is shattered into pieces.
Cheer up! She is not your real friend at all and not worth of your loyalty.
Don't feel sad!
It's evident that from the very beginning, she just made use of you. You should know the reason that she recommended you to her client. Actually she wanted to cooperate with you in the near future when she introduced you to B. But it turns out that her dream is shattered into pieces.
Cheer up! She is not your real friend at all and not worth of your loyalty.
11 Dec 2007 01:54