Hello. guys.
I just wanna pour out my feelings of being an international seller.
I just graduated from a college for one and a half months.
I started this work when I was a senior student. I've worked as an international seller for four months and five days.
I like this job, though sometimes I feel lots of stress, almost from my boss, his son and his daughter-in-low (We all work in the same office).
I have successfully made five deals till now. Everytime when an order is placed, I will be very happy, although four of them are very small orders. I haven't got an order in July. I don't know why. I reply the enquiries very soon and our prices are competitive. Maybe the reason is the rebate rate's sharply decline. My boss and his son keep asking me if there are some orders, some potention customers. I feel very nervous those days!
What's more, I also came across some other incidents, especially the sample and the courier cost.
Let me see. I've sent samples to four potiential customers. Three of them have made mistakes when transfering the samples payment.
Sometimes the beneficiary name is not correct, sometimes the **** is wrong.
I don't know why, the information I gave to them is definately right.
Ok, I need to be very careful next time! I plan to send a sheet of detailed information of our bank accout next time. Hope that will be helpful.
Today, a customer transfered USD 50 to us for the samples' cost by western union.
We never used western union before. My boss's daughter-in-law is the one who go to draw the money. I've given her all the information she need: the control number, the quantity of momey, the name and the county of the customer etc.
When she came back, I asked her :" have you drawed the money?"
" Why are your things always so inconvenient?! I spent half an hour in the bank."
I felt really sad when hearing that. I don't like inconvenience myself, either.
But the customer chose to transfer money by western union because it's bank fee is less. I understand and to my understanding, the customers' choice and convenience should be valued.
Why they don't understand me and think on my position?
The customers are not only my customers, also their customers! The money paid by the customers is earned by them! NOT me!

Yesterday, I got my salary of June. I was still a college student at that time, so I need come back to school for some days.
My boss told me that he wouldn't subtract my salary because of My going back to school.
But I found my salary was subtracted, that's RMB500.
I can't accept that, of course!
So I asked my boss what's the reason.
He said: I promised I wouldn't subtract your salary, I mean only at probation time, Now you are a plenary employee, your salary is two times of that moment.
My god! I know he played a literal game with me!
I know if I compromise this time again, I won't forgive myself.

Actually, I've compromised last time. He promised that my salary is RMB1500 + deduct a percentage from a sum of money when I started my work.
But my actual salary for the first two months is 800 per month. He said there are two months probation when I've already worked here for two months! I compromised that time, but it won't happen again.
At last, I won.

But actually, because of these two incidents, I don't like this company as before.

To be frankly, when I started my work here, I want to do everything for this company! I treated it as my family! But now, I'm hurt by my boss's breaking his promises again and again.

All my friends asked me to fire my boss. But I'm so embarrassed to do this because I promised to work in this company for two years.
I always keep my promises though it's only a oral promise.

I'm too young! I can't control my life and my work!
Hope I will get used to my society life very soon!
I am missing my school life and my school friends very much!

Replying to [Fei Wong]:

Hello, Wong Fei, challenges are always there for you.

To share with you a story below. Hope you like it.

Be strong and carry on.

Tom


"A man found a co of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.
So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the co . The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.
The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.
What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting co and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the co .
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If we were allowed to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly! "

Replying to [tomorrowneverknow]:

Dear Tom,Thank you for your kind words.
Thank you for your story.
I will learn to be more stronger, have a brave and independent life!

I will have a bright future, I know.

Replying to [Fei Wong]:

When I saw the headline I thought, "well, I'll chime in and offer a little of my life experience". But then I saw what "tomorrowneverknown" had written and realized there was nothing to add. Thanks for helping out a fellow trader!

Replying to [Fei Wong]:

Dear Fei, I just read this post. make me feel sorry and sad for you. cause I could feel your dedication and sadness at the same time. So let me try to help you with some advise. Design your life and Career. A busines measures its equity in terms of financial capital. On the other hand, YOU measure your personal equity in terms of your own human capital.

I explain... YOUR personal equity consist of the physical, emotional, and mental energies you are able to invest in your career. Set a goal of acheiving the very highest return possible on the investment of your energies. You will determine you income and your overall satisfaction by how well you invest yourself. This is critical focal point of personal strategic planing.

When you are feeling frustrated or dessatisfied or beleive you are no longer getting the kind of results you want from your work or your life, its time to review your strategic plan. This is the time to sit down and ask yourself some good, hard questions. If you are feeling a high level of resistance or stress in your work, or you see that you are working longer and longer hours that are not matched by higher returns, take time to review and revise your strategy.

Remember Fei, regardless of what happen in life, in your career...Having conceived your purpose you should mentally mark out a straight pathway to your acheivement looking neither to the right nor the left. The mountain are climb ONE step at a time.

Replying to [Fei Wong]
You must feel better now, do you?

Replying to [Skypass04]:
Dear skypass04, thank you for your kind words and your advise
I will climb the "mountain" step by step. And one day, I can fly up to the sky.

Replying to[Zilian Wang]: Sure, I feel better --- because of all these kind friends.